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Recently I posted a question on my Facebook Fan Page: "What is the best love / romance advice you have for newlyweds?"
The respondents varied from a soon-to-be-wed bride (May 2010) to a woman who will be celebrating 55 years of marriage in December! (What an inspiration you are, Nancy!)
Here are some of the responses:
From Nancy G., who has been married for 30 years: Choose your battles, don't dwell on the small stuff, it's not worth it.
From Patty G.: Never go to bed mad or without resolving an argument! ... Happily married for 7 years...together for almost 12!
Carrie P., who will marry Paul on May 29th, says: The most important thing to remember is respect. As long as you respect your partner, and they respect you, everything else will fall in place.
From Kathy H. a newlywed of one year: Never take one another for granted ~ appreciate the little things ~ hold hands ~ put a little love note where it will be found when you are not around.
David B. has this sage advice: Don't EVER say that whatever your spouse does to irritate you, that they remind them of one of their parents .....example: "You act like your Father/Mother!" :(
That's like dropping cluster bombs!!!!!!
And Nancy F., married since December of 1955, says: You must nourish a marriage--it cannot survive without respect, faith, trust , and humor -- a couple may become a family-but they need to always remember they were the original spark-and need to retain their own relationship , as their lives change throughout the years.
Excellent advice, from the experts.
So, what's YOUR best advice on love and romance? I'd love to hear from you!
Rev. Jeri
1 comment:
I agree with Nancy. Marriage takes work. It doesn't sound sexy and doesn't fit in with the relatively modern perception of marriage as some kind of ongoing passionate romance that is perpetuated by the movies. People rely to heavily on the "unconditional love" or "all you need is love" mantra and the reality is that love is only the beginning. I think friendship, respect, shared values, common goals, similar sense of humor, and the willingness to "stay in touch" with one another, are essential and must be built month-by-month, year-by-year, in good times as well as in bad. So, I think, in short, I would say "Stay in touch. Keep in touch!" that would be my advice. Life throws all sorts of curveballs at you and you need to face the inevitable changes side-by-side, on the same page, and as a team.
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