Advice from the experts ... married couples!

Recently I posted a question on my Facebook Fan Page: "What is the best love / romance advice you have for newlyweds?"

The respondents varied from a soon-to-be-wed bride (May 2010) to a woman who will be celebrating 55 years of marriage in December! (What an inspiration you are, Nancy!)

Here are some of the responses:

From Nancy G., who has been married for 30 years: Choose your battles, don't dwell on the small stuff, it's not worth it.

From Patty G.: Never go to bed mad or without resolving an argument! ... Happily married for 7 years...together for almost 12!

Carrie P., who will marry Paul on May 29th, says: The most important thing to remember is respect. As long as you respect your partner, and they respect you, everything else will fall in place.

From Kathy H. a newlywed of one year: Never take one another for granted ~ appreciate the little things ~ hold hands ~ put a little love note where it will be found when you are not around.

David B. has this sage advice: Don't EVER say that whatever your spouse does to irritate you, that they remind them of one of their parents .....example: "You act like your Father/Mother!" :(
That's like dropping cluster bombs!!!!!!

And Nancy F., married since December of 1955, says: You must nourish a marriage--it cannot survive without respect, faith, trust , and humor -- a couple may become a family-but they need to always remember they were the original spark-and need to retain their own relationship , as their lives change throughout the years.

Excellent advice, from the experts.

So, what's YOUR best advice on love and romance? I'd love to hear from you!

Rev. Jeri

You are kidding ... aren't you?

A recent conversation I had with another wedding vendor (and I'll call him "Vendor" to preserve his anonymity):

Vendor: Hey, I'm going to perform the ceremony for my best friend!

RJM: Wow! That's great! (Big smile!)

Vendor: Yeah, it's going to be a blast! I'm planning to wear a tuxedo -- just the shirt and jacket. No pants, just my underwear.

RJM: (Surprised silence.)

Vendor: Either that, or I'm going to wear a bear's head, or ... (he mentioned another outrageous costume; I forget what it was).

RJM: You're kidding, right? (Smaller smile.)

Vendor: Oh, no! He's my best friend, and it's going to be a huge party!

RJM: (Little smile; what could I say?)

Okay, maybe I'm old-fashioned.
Maybe I'm conservative.
Maybe I'm just thinking of my own comfort zone.
Maybe I'm wondering what the Bride thinks of this idea -- or if she even knows.
Maybe I'm thinking of the wedding photos, and how this guy is going to stand out in ALL the ceremony pictures.

Or ... maybe I'm thinking of the importance of the wedding ceremony, and wondering why anyone would want to turn it into a comedy routine, rather than a strong foundation upon which the couple will build their marriage.

Humor in a wedding ceremony? ABSOLUTELY! (IF it's appropriate for the couple, that is.)

Am I a stuffy person? Um, no. (At least I don't think so!) I like to have fun, and I've been called the "Irreverent Reverend" more than once. And I like that! ;)

But a bear's head? Or half a tuxedo? I don't think so.

(And I hope someone tells the Bride. Somehow, I think she would want to know.)

Rev. Jeri

To love, cherish ... and obey?