Enchantment and Dreams!

This past weekend (Feb. 27th & 28th), I had the opportunity to hang out with some wedding colleagues, as well as meeting some couples who are planning their 2010 and 2011 weddings.

On Saturday I enjoyed the Grand Opening and Fashion Show presented by Enchanted Bridal Shoppe in Fair Oaks. Situated in the Quail Pointe Shopping Center (corner of Madison & Sunrise), Enchanted Bridal is owned by the Baker family. Jeff and Sandy Baker run the business, their daughter Jennifer (formerly of Lake Natoma Inn) is the Director of Sales, and other family members add their expertise to the business.

My booth was situated next to that of Adagio Weddings & Events, and I "caught up" on local wedding news from Adagio's owner, Katy Baker. I also took at peek at some of the beautiful invitations created by Linda Walker, owner of Creme de la Creme Paperie (Citrus Heights).

Sweet Cakes by Rebecca gave out samples of their delicious (and beautiful) cakes, Joan of Beautiful by Nature Florist had a gorgeous display of flowers, and Carmita Restaurant offered dolmas and other Mediterranean taste treats. (Vegan food; yay! And they're located in the Quail Pointe Shopping Center. I'll be back!)

Phill of Sheffield Multimedia captured the fun and fashion (and shared a funny story!) The fun photo booth was courtesy of Chris Terry of Encore Photo Booths. Debbie Brown Photography was the official photographer; Debbie is also mother to three of the beautiful "brides" in the fashion show. Gorgeous young ladies, and they looked stunning in the wedding gowns. Watch out, Debbie!

And kudos to Carlene Herrera, also formerly of Lake Natoma Inn, for her wonderful coordination of this event!

Those are just a few of the wedding professionals who participated in Enchanted Bridal Shoppe's grand opening celebration. Thanks again, Jennifer, for inviting me to your party!

And then, on Sunday, I was part of the Dream team, as I participated in The Dream Wedding Show!

Sunday was a beautiful, sunny day, and the Exposition Center at Cal Expo was filled with brides and grooms, parents, and bff's all eager to see what the local wedding professionals had to offer.

There were too many exhibitors to name in this blog. All I can say is most of THE BEST in Sacramento were there.

My booth was perfectly situated. On one side was Jensen Wedding Videos -- always a classy booth, and Mike seems to attract the very best clients!

And on the other side was Chocolate Fountains of Sacramento. I loved watching people's eyes light up when they came around the corner and saw the chocolate fountain. Jim would ask, "Would you like a sample?" and almost without exception the response was "Oh, why not?!"
And when they bit into the chocolate-covered cream puff, their dreamy-eyed look told me it was dee-licious!

My lovely assistant, Carrieanna, handed out flyers listing helpful questions to ask when choosing an officiant. (And periodically she volunteered her services in "quality control and tasting" for the chocolate fountain!)

A busy, productive, FUN weekend for this Reverend!

RJM

Where there is love, there is life

Last Saturday, at the Old Sugar Mill in Clarksburg, Meena and Bret combined their cultures, their families, and their lives in a beautiful ceremony of marriage.

Meena, a fiscal analyst for the State of California, met her beloved, Bret, when his company was hired to do some work for her department. She told me that when they first spoke on the phone, she knew he was someone special. He says that when they met in person, her beautiful smile immediately caught his attention. And thus, their love story began, growing into the love that brought them to Clarksburg on February 20th to be joined in marriage.

Meena included her Hindu heritage in many ways. She and her mother met many times with Gloria and Kerry of Howe It's Done Catering, cooking and sampling to ensure that the food for the reception would include authentic Indian dishes.

The bride and her attendants wore traditional Indian wedding attire; their red and ivory saris brought color and passion to the celebration, enhanced by the beautiful bouquets and floral arrangements created by Meena's sister, Savita.

Bret and Meena's children and grandchildren were important participants in the ceremony. Bret's son, Eric, was also his best man, while one-year-old grandson, Conner, nearly stole the show as he ran up the aisle with enthusiasm to give Bret the ring pillow!

Bret's daughters, Sarah and Emily, each presented readings. And Meena's son, Keaton, escorted his mother down the aisle, and later performed a violin solo (Ode to Joy) in tribute to his mother and new father.

Along with the traditional vows and exchange of rings, Bret and Meena performed the Rite of Sacred Fire and Seven Steps, wherein they affirmed their love and declared their union in this traditional Hindu ritual.

The ceremony and reception were flawlessly coordinated by Katy Baker of Adagio Weddings and Events, with Jasmine Renee Photography capturing all the unique beauty of this beautiful couple's celebration.

Congratulations, Meena and Bret! May you be blessed with many, many years of living and loving together!

Rev. Jeri

Perfect Sounds to the rescue

Joseph and Feliza had been planning their dream wedding for quite some time, and today was The Big Day!

I arrived at Lake Natoma Inn 30 minutes before the 5:00 p.m. ceremony -- and found the groom's mother in tears. The DJ they had hired had not shown up yet. (He/They should have already been there and set up.)

Erin, the Event Coordinator at Lake Natoma Inn, called the DJ company in question, and was told that they were on their way . . . from Stockton. There was absolutely no way they would arrive in time to have the music ready for the ceremony.

So Erin called Raymond at Perfect Sounds in Folsom, explained the situation, and he came to the rescue. Within minutes -- literally -- he was setting up his sound system, putting microphones on the groom and the officiant (me), and playing soothing background music while guests were seated.

With minimal instruction, he not only played the perfect music for the processional, but also surprised us with some lovely background music as Joseph and Feliza presented their mothers with a surprise gift of roses.

The "tardy" DJs showed up at 6:00 p.m., and were setting up their equipment when I left. (I'll post their company name in a future blog, called "Buyer beware." Sometimes "cheap" is just that.)

Raymond, you were our savior this evening. And you do deliver the Perfect Sounds!

In gratitude,
Rev. Jeri Murphy

PS: Congratulations, Joseph and Feliza!!!

Promises and Vows

The wedding ceremonies I write usually include "promises" and "vows." Periodically I've been asked to explain the difference; I've given a sufficient response.

However, I found the following explanation in Caroline Myss' book, "Entering the Castle" and I really like it.

She's talking to her 13-year old niece, Rachel, who asked about the difference between promises and vows.

Caroline says, " ... promises are agreements that [you] as a person make between [yourself] and [your] friends and family. They are agreements of honor. When you break a promise, the part of you that lets you known you've broken your word is called your conscience.

"Unlike a promise ... a vow is an agreement that your soul makes with God. You make a vow when you are ready to make a commitment to live your life a certain way. Even in cases where you make a vow to another person, you are also making an agreement with God, so a vow is sacred and therefore has cosmic consequences that promises do not. Vows are so powerful ... that most people can live up to the demands of only one or two vows at the most over the course of their entire lives. When and if the time came for [Rachel] to make a vow, she would have to make certain that her soul was in complete agreement with all that the vows would require of her."

(Photo by Bakari, Lifetime Photography)

Rev. Jeri

Field trip to Loomis

Today I went on a field trip!

Joined by two favorite wedding girlfriends, Diana Miller of Diana Miller Photography and Anna Hernandez of Whitebird Ceremonial Dove Releases, I visited The Flower Farm Inn, a delightful B&B in Loomis.

We had lunch at the little cafe, then strolled the grounds enjoying the whimsical garden sculptures, the plants -- those currently in bloom and others still hibernating -- and the Gypsy Chicks!

We're planning a return trip in March, when more of the flowers are bloomin'.

Care to meet us there?

Rev. Jeri

New Year's Resolution - 2010

"Spread love everywhere you go: first of all in your own house. Give love to your children, to your wife or husband, to a next door neighbor... Let no one ever come to you without leaving better and happier.

Be the living expression of God's kindness; kindness in your face, kindness in your eyes, kindness in your smile, kindness in your warm greeting."

-- Mother Teresa

Falling In Love is Like Owning a Dog

For lovers and others who love dogs:

FALLING IN LOVE IS LIKE OWNING A DOG
(an epithalamion by Taylor Mali)

First of all, it's a big responsibility,
especially in a city like New York.
So think long and hard before deciding on love.
On the other hand, love gives you a sense of security:
when you're walking down the street late at night
and you have a leash on love
ain't no one going to mess with you.
Because crooks and muggers think love is unpredictable.
Who knows what love could do in its own defense?

On cold winter nights, love is warm.
It lies between you and lives and breathes
and makes funny noises.
Love wakes you up all hours of the night with its needs.
It needs to be fed so it will grow and stay healthy.

Love doesn't like being left alone for long.
But come home and love is always happy to see you.
It may break a few things accidentally in its passion for life,
but you can never be mad at love for long.

Is love good all the time? No! No!
Love can be bad. Bad, love, bad! Very bad love.

Love makes messes.
Love leaves you little surprises here and there.
Love needs lots of cleaning up after.
Sometimes you just want to get love fixed.
Sometimes you want to roll up a piece of newspaper
and swat love on the nose,
not so much to cause pain,
just to let love know Don't you ever do that again!

Sometimes love just wants to go for a nice long walk.
Because love loves exercise.
It runs you around the block and leaves you panting.
It pulls you in several different directions at once,
or winds around and around you
until you're all wound up and can't move.

But love makes you meet people wherever you go.
People who have nothing in common but love
stop and talk to each other on the street.

Throw things away and love will bring them back,
again, and again, and again.
But most of all, love needs love, lots of it.
And in return, love loves you and never stops.